I think the hardest thing about getting over a broken heart is deciding what to do next. 

Where do you put all of that attention you have focused on them?  Are you ready to move on from the hopes and dreams you had interlaced with your relationship? 

I’m not.  I never am ready for that.  It hurts.  It’s hard.  You think you’ve finally found “THE ONE” and then you find out they aren’t on the same page.  Why can’t we just end up with the right person the first time? Then these day dreams you have of the house he will buy you and all the little ways you will love and care of him when you are married gets burned before your eyes.  You’ve thought about your wedding, your kids, and your life with the guy but then you are back to square one with a pain in your chest to show for your time together. 

The guy I was falling for told me I was a good friend.  OUCH. 

He is only the most recent of men in a long line that love me for something short of what I am hoping.  I feel like the kid who falls off her bike and yet keeps jumping right back up.  Hope springs eternal in my heart because I believe God has a good plan for my life and I believe that plan includes a husband.  Why? Because it is the desire of my heart to be loved and give love to someone I am committed to for the rest of my life. 

Sounds a lot like Jesus, doesn’t it?  How He loves the church is a model for how my husband should love me (and your husband should love you).  I believe that it is my job to search after God and let my husband search after me.  I’ve been single for a long time because I choose not to date the unsaved guys who come after me.  (Okay, I slipped up a bit in that area in January but God brought awful things to light about the guy in less than a day.) And I also choose not to date the saved guys who want to just make out with me but not commit to be in a relationship with me.  What misguided, disrespectful broken-hearted men!  They believe the lie that the world tells them saying “Just Friends with No Strings attached” is okay. 

I believe that my goal and mission is to find out how to live my life letting my perspective be one of joy and hope running after God instead of being depressed and disconcerted when I feel relationship and marriage isn’t happening soon enough.  But how?  Especially when you want to cry? God says that when we seek Him that He will be found by us.  I believe God loves to give us revelation into the difficult seasons of our life.  If He gave Gideon a game plan for overtaking Israel’s enemies when they were overwhelmed and the odds against them, I believe God will give us Christian singles a plan to conquer boredom, discouragement, depression, insecurity, pain and loneliness when we pray.  After Jehoshaphat prayed, he put worshipers out front to lead his army in praise God when they went into battle and the Lord killed their attackers before they even got there. 

So even though we don’t feel like moving on, we run towards that fresh hope and freedom we find in praising God for His strength and knowing that He is battling the enemy that seeks to drown you and I in broken-heartedness.